Dear Teenage Girls

Dear teenage girls,

Hi, I’m Kring. You probably do not know me but I got some  unsolicited advice for you. Don’t worry, I’d like to believe I’ve grown up to be a well-adjusted person and you can ask my friends and colleagues if you doubt my credibility. I’ve been keeping a journal (for a couple of years) and a blog (since 2004) and I have pretty much chronicled my growth for more than a decade through my cringe-inducing entries. I guess it’s safe to say that I have grown up a lot (more than you have, for sure) – physically, mentally, emotionally and heck, even financially.

Along with growing up are the lessons learned the hard way (or from just dealing with other people), which I’d like to share with you. I do not want to impose or tell you what to do because when I was 16, I hated it when people told me what to do, too. However, I’m pretty sure even Oprah and Tyra would agree with me on these things. Are you ready to listen to auntie now? Here we go.

Trust me on this one. Do not have a relationship early. Your relationships and heartaches will end up defining you (and chances are, you won’t end up with the person you’re with when you’re 17 anyway unless you’re Gladys Reyes). When I was younger, I HATED the fact that I didn’t have a boyfriend or a guy to call my own when almost every girl had her arms around a pimplish teenage boy with B.O and bad breath. My advice? Date. Date. Date! Go out with as much guys as you want but do not get into a relationship UNTIL YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE (believe me, you don’t know who you are when you’re 19). When you finally become a woman, and you will feel it when it comes, then you’re good to go!

They say that the human brain only fully develops when you’re 25 or older so you might want to put off getting a tattoo until you’re old enough to take care of your parents and pay amortization and other adult shit like that. I wanted one when I was 19 and boy, am I glad my mother threatened to kill me if I ever get one (Vic Zhou’s name on my lower back? REALLY???) Also, do not do drugs, not even try it. It is evil and was regurgitated out of Satan’s ass.

Totally hot, right? That’s you 50 years from now!

Instead, surround your self with positive people who can become your role models. Remember that you were born for a purpose so you gotta find your passion. Find your true calling and do it! Make it happen! Never ever let anyone tell you you’re not good enough or you’re too much. Spread happiness, beauty and love.

Speaking of which, a lot of us forget that “Happiness is a choice”. I understand that as teenagers, you are supposed to be full of angst (I was, too. So full of it!) but *pat pat* worry not, in a few years time, you will look back and realize that the things you were so upset about that made you /wrist have as much bearing in your life as the flavors of Pringles*.

And beauty, oh that topic, beauty! I still have psychic scars from believing for so long that I was a really ugly girl and to be fair, I was (hence my burning need to untag my self on Facebook on all my photos from 4 years ago or earlier) . I was the ugly girl who just didn’t give a damn. Big hair, dark skin, acne-face bad teeth/braces. Name it, I had it.

And just to prove my point (and this is for those who can’t believe I was fug before)… hold on to your seats, everyone. CHARAAAAN!!!

Kring from 2003 and 2010. No plastic surgery involved. Both photos are un-photoshopped.
Now you can’t blackmail me anymore! Mwahahahaha!

I only started wearing make-up 3-4 years ago and only began bothering about how I look 2 years ago.

And you know what, it was for the better. So stop worrying about your looks and focus your energy on developing your skills, talents and personality because cliche as it may sound, beauty comes from within. When it’s your time to be pretty, it will happen and you’d be a triple threat by then because you’d be beautiful, talented and charismatic. And we all know every other girl hates skinny bitches anyway but we all love fun-loving, empowered women with achievements.

In any case, just make a lot of money because money can buy physical beauty. Just don’t overdo it.

Jessica Jung gives hope to humanity. However, that’s with SM Ent’s money. But still.

Oh, and please please please don’t ever get involved with a married man, unless you want a younger woman to be humping your future husband. Or your own 18 y/o daughter to be getting it on with a father of four, thrice her age. Karma is digital, you know. STD’s and teenage pregnancies are so common these days and do you really just want to be just part of the statistics??? Sure, keep safe and be aware of your body but do not just go spreading your legs for anyone and everyone because you are special and you are worth a lot. You are a person with dignity, not a dog or a rabbit.

Do it with someone you love and someone who loves you more because corny as it may sound… true love waits.

When you go out there in the real world, you’d realize that people will eat you alive and you cannot do it on your own. You have to have a solid support system like family and friends whom you can run to when you’re broken. Do not blame others for what you have become because at the end of the day, you have free will and a chance to claim your own destiny.

Also, there is so much ahead of you and you just got to hold on to that dream, however grand or humble it may be. More than making it big, how about make a difference? Good girls finish first but well behaved women seldom make history so go out there, explore. And do it to be a better person, a better woman who can face the world with her head up high and a Julia Roberts smile on her face.

Yours truly,
Kring

ps: I hope I didn’t sound preachy and I’m not saying I’ve become the woman I’m talking about here either but I am fortunate to have met people like that. I guess I have more lessons to learn.
pps: I understand that not everyone has the same fate and opportunities and not all girls have it good in life but this is from my own experiences and you don’t have to agree.
ppps: Sex videos will make your parents die younger.

* It’s not a paid product mention

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